Why Life Feels So Hard

Amy Maria
May 2
2 min read

Updated: May 4

For so long, I believed life was just hard. That struggle was part of the deal. But what this spiritual journey has shown me is something far more honest and far more empowering:

Life has felt hard because I made it hard.

Not on purpose. Not out of weakness. But because I didn’t yet know who I was, or why I reacted the way I did. I hadn’t asked myself the deeper questions. I hadn’t sat in the discomfort long enough to hear the truth whisper back.

We all carry pain. But healing begins when we become willing to look within. To ask ourselves:

Who am I?
Why do I respond this way?
Where did this begin?

This work isn’t easy. It requires courage to dissect yourself, to peel back the layers of survival, performance, and people-pleasing. But what’s underneath?

A scared, confused, maybe even angry little boy or girl.

They weren’t loved the way they needed to be. They were silenced, shamed, or ignored. And now, that pain shows up as anger. As defensiveness. As emotional shutdowns. As overreactions. As anxiety.

It’s not just trauma. It’s an inner child crying out to be seen, heard, and comforted.

And here’s the truth: It’s your job to love them.

To meet them. To sit with them. To tell them, “I’m here now. I see you. And I love you.”

Because understanding leads to love. And love is the doorway to freedom.

Only when we begin healing within can we truly begin loving others. Only when we nurture ourselves can we show up with clarity, peace, and compassion.Only when we stop projecting our pain can we break the cycles.

It all starts with you. It always starts within.